I recently heard that a radio program discussed this question; and I heard that all the callers agreed that it’s ok for a Christian to attend a pagan wedding. All the callers agreed… When I heard this, I really was surprised. I could understand that some might agree; but all the callers agreeing? Of course, I don’t know if the person reporting this to me heard the entire program or not. But the consensus was it is ok because this is a way of showing the pagans love.
Now I am taking this to be exactly what it was said to be – a pagan wedding ceremony – and not two unbelievers who are getting married before a justice of the peace. Because if it is two unbelievers who are getting married before a justice of the peace, and you’re invited to go, then of course, it’s ok to attend! However, if it is a pagan wedding ceremony… No. No. NO. Absolutely not!
Why you ask? Well, if you are like me, you don’t know much about a pagan wedding ceremony. Google it! What I found was very surprising at least for me as a Christian. There are a number of elements to a pagan wedding ceremony that should cause the Christian to flee from it. Below are listed a few of them (this is not an exhausted list because of the many branches of paganism):
• Site Preparation: “1-4 hours before a wedding begins the area is consecrated, an altar is set-up.”
• Circle Casting: Using imagery, sound, and/or movement.
• Elemental Blessings: “Couple journeys with minister(s) to each of the compass points to receive a blessing of the Direction and its associated Element. (Tools and qualities have been preselected during Planning session.)” These tools include, but are not limited to, a pentacle of salt, candles or wand, crystals or other spirit symbols.
• Goddess Evocation: Divine Female principle evoked in the Bride.
• God Evocation: Divine Male principle evoked in the Groom.
• Un-casting the Circle: The formal ritual ends with a benediction.
Let me explain why a Christian should flee from this ceremony. First, the pagan practitioner is consecrating an area and setting up an altar. Therefore, the practitioner is consecrating an area and setting up an altar to their gods. This is not our God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. This is an idol, a false god, and, according to the Bible, a demon. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 10:20 that, “The sacrifices of pagans are offered to demons, not to God.” Therefore, what they are consecrating, and what they are building an altar for, is demons and “not to God.”
Next, the circle is a place of worship in Wicca and Paganism. Circle casting involves calling upon the deities (gods) of their traditions. This is a magic circle. The Elemental Blessing is part of the circle casting and involves invoking their gods. The goddess and god evocation are evoking (calling upon) their gods. Patti Wigington, who writes for a number of pagan publications and is cited in the article “The Risk of Invocation” on the witches and pagans website, defines invocation as “a form of voluntary possession. When you invoke a deity being, … you’re inviting it into yourself, and that god or goddess will manifest through a human host.” Here again… Who are they calling? Do you, as a Christian, want to be part of a magic circle that is calling a demon? “Therefore, my dear friends,” as Paul writes, “flee idolatry.” Idolatry is the worship of false gods that are really demons. By attending a pagan wedding ceremony, you are attending a worship ceremony that is (calling/evoking) false gods, which are demons.
“The sacrifices of pagans are offered to demons, not to God, and I do not want you to be participants with demons.” If you attend a pagan wedding ceremony, or any other pagan ceremony for that matter, you are being “participants with demons.” You are attending a ceremony with demons present, having been called there by the pagan practitioner; and consequently, you are participating in a demonic ceremony.
The Bible is clear about this, “you cannot drink the cup of the Lord and the cup of demons too; you cannot have a part in both the Lord’s Table and the table of demons.” (1 Corinthians 10:21) in other words, you cannot attend both ceremonies of God and ceremonies of demons. And, Paul finishes by saying, are you stronger than God?
So, if you are invited to a pagan ceremony and you want to show them love, kindly decline and buy them a gift. If you’re brave, and I hope you are for the Lord’s sake (and your own), tell them why you cannot attend. Use this as an opportunity to be a witness for the Lord and tell them about your hope in Christ! But do so gently and with respect. You should always love everyone and treat everyone with respect.